Would you date someone who still drinks?
612 Zaxee members answered one of sober dating's most divisive questions. The result is more open-minded than you might expect from a sobriety-first platform — and the age breakdown makes the whole thing much more interesting.
Most voted
Yes, as long as they respect my choice
Four in ten Zaxee members are open to dating someone who drinks — provided that person respects their sobriety. It's a more generous answer than the platform's positioning might suggest. Most members here aren't looking to exclude drinkers. They're looking for respect.
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How different groups voted
Bars show each gender's share of votes for that option. Age heatmap shows what percentage of each age group chose each answer.
By gender — bars scaled to each option's total votes
Yes, as long as they respect my choice (247 votes)
No — shared sobriety is important to me (218 votes)
It depends on how much they drink (112 votes)
Not sure — still figuring it out (35 votes)
By age — % of each age group choosing each answer
n=121
n=208
n=167
n=82
n=34
Poll ran 1–8 May 2026. 612 Zaxee members responded. Self-reported demographics from member profiles. Age bucket totals: 18–24 n=121, 25–34 n=208, 35–44 n=167, 45–54 n=82, 55+ n=34.
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What the data tells us
Four in ten Zaxee members say yes — they would date someone who still drinks, provided that person respects their sobriety. It's a more open-minded result than the platform's positioning might suggest. Most members here aren't on a mission to exclude drinkers. They're looking for respect.
But 35.6% draw a firm line. For more than a third of respondents, shared sobriety isn't a preference — it's a requirement. This isn't rigidity; it's pattern recognition. Many members have been in relationships where their sobriety was tolerated rather than valued, and they've decided that's no longer enough. The gap between "Yes, if they respect it" and "No" is just 29 votes. This community is genuinely split.
The most striking gender finding is in the 'No' camp: 115 women chose shared sobriety as a requirement versus 95 men — a 21% higher female rate despite near-identical overall vote totals. The 'Yes, if they respect it' option was essentially tied: 120 men, 118 women. Women on Zaxee are measurably more likely to treat shared sobriety as non-negotiable — which may reflect a different lived experience of what 'tolerance' looks like in practice.
Age shows the clearest pattern in the entire dataset. 18–24 year olds lean strongly open: 45% said yes, with only 26% saying no — a nearly 20-point gap. By 35–44, the numbers flip: 42% say no, 37% say yes. Among 45–54 and 55+ members, 'No' holds a firm majority. This trajectory is unsurprising — older members have had more time to learn through experience what actually works for them in a long-term relationship, and for many, 'works' means aligned values, not just compatible calendars.